LUCY’S CHRISTMAS WI$H LI$T.

Heyyyyyyy girlies. How are we feeling about the run up to Christmas? I am soooo excited I can’t even tell you. Spending quality time with the people that I LOVE and ADORE. Yes please. BUT before we celebrate all the gorgeous Christmassy fun things I want to just rant to you all for a second. Okay? Let’s go.

I got harassed the other day by a silly little man. I was in a public place, surrounded by people yet I have never felt so uncomfortable. He asked me a question that I was more than happy to answer. I responded. He said thank you. I smiled. He turned around to me and asked me how my day was? I said great thank you, how about you? Again more small talk. By this point I was on my way home after the LONGEST day and I was TIRED. He proceeded to ask me questions like do you have a boyfriend? You’re very pretty etc etc. Firstly, yes I am thank you for the observation. But after me politely asking him to end the conversation as I just wanted to have some alone time: he would not leave me alone. Inching closer to me. When I moved away he would move closer. In the queue he was literally ON TOP of me. I told him to leave me the fuck alone. I think that probably did it. Having to text my boyfriend what was going on so he was on hand if I needed help. Like WHAT? I shouldn’t have to think about those things. Being scared to get off the bus outside my house in case he follows me off. Planning how quickly I’m going to walk home so he doesn’t see where I live. My heart absolutely POUNDING. Being made to feel so uncomfortable and unsafe. Minutes from the place that’s supposed to make me feel the safest. My home.

I was nice to a man who needed help. I smiled. I moved on. He wasn’t done. He didn’t understand boundaries and that when we say NO we fucking mean NO. Okay? No questions asked. My Christmas wish this year is for men to stop thinking that when a woman is nice to you, that means you can take advantage of her. You can’t. She doesn’t owe you anything and making her feel uncomfortable because your big ego can’t handle the fact that she turned you away is pretty pathetic. Go and put up some Christmas lights instead, write a letter to Santa, tell people you love them; stop making women bare the weight of your disintegrating self esteem babe.

Merry Christmas everyone except for the man that didn’t respect my boundaries. You can fuck off xoxo

I love you all so much,

Lucy xxx